What Is Love?
There are so many answers, so many forms—so many possibilities. But I see love a bit differently than most people. See, I love love. I have such a big heart, and for me, love is everything.
Love is family. Love is kindness. Love is sharing moments with the people who truly mean the most to you.
Love is a privilege. That’s why we don’t just say it to strangers—it holds weight. When it comes to relationships or having a partner, love should be gentle. It should feel natural and mutual. I didn’t grow up in the “perfect” two-parent household with a white picket fence, but I had a mother who taught me my worth—and that was more than enough.
I’ve had my fair share of ups and downs in love. But the greatest lesson I’ve learned through it all is the importance of self-love.
I have a habit of pouring myself into other people, meeting their needs while forgetting my own. I used to think prioritizing myself was selfish—but it’s not. You can’t pour from an empty cup. You can’t give love if there’s none left in your heart—especially for yourself.
I’ve always worn my heart on my sleeve. Having a big heart can be both a blessing and a curse. People may take advantage or be unkind, but I’ve never let that stop me from spreading love. Why? Because I come from love. I grew up in a big family where love was always present—even on the rough days. That foundation made me dream of a love so deep and kind that I’d never have to question it.
Not everyone gets the chance to experience love in all its forms. But no matter what, you’ll always have you. No man or woman, no friend or family member, can love you the way you can. And there is no greater feeling than discovering the joy of self-love.
I don’t know where I’d be today if I hadn’t started putting myself first.
Here’s what I’ve learned: with love comes heartbreak. Disappointment. Broken promises. False hope. At some point, you’ll experience one—or all—of these. But don’t let that stop you from realizing your worth. Everyone is deserving of love.
And remember this:
You are loved. You are important. Even if someone else fails to see it.